Define "Slow Learner." October 27, 2008

Filed under: Uncategorized — Christina M @ 8:00 pm

Is it a person who has multiple children?

Only if the children were a mistake. Ergo, no.

Maybe the slow learner is the one who has a blessing… or is fortunate enough to have multiple blessings and still thinks only a slow learner would want to be so blessed.

Oooh, people who assume that children are a mistake really steam my Irish potatoes.


That New Pill June 5, 2007

Filed under: Uncategorized — Christina M @ 3:23 pm

I don’t know how many times I would have jumped at the idea, when I was younger, to take a pill to make my periods go away. Now that I’m older, they’ve come out with such a pill (a contraceptive) and I’m less enthusiastic. In fact, I’m a little worried. I know everyone has already hashed out the contraceptive arguments, so I think I’ll gloss by those for now, not wanting to repeat what has already been said. What I really want to say is that there is a whole list of reasons that taking a pill to stop your periods sounds like a bad idea.

1. The pill is a contraceptive. Every contraceptive method has a failure rate, and the most common way of knowing when a contraceptive has failed is by a missed period. A woman on this pill may go a long time before she realizes she’s pregnant. In the meantime, she is not getting prenatal care, she is not likely to know her due date, and the pills may be harming her unborn child. Where a chance of pregnancy exists, the idea of eliminating the most common method of pregnancy detection seems at least unwise.

2. The period exists for a reason. It is not an illness to be corrected, and in fact for a reproductive age woman not to have them can cause health problems. Especially if the body thinks it is pregnant (which is how this and other typical birth control pills work), the endometrium lines the uterus for implantation and nutrition. Without periods, this endometrial lining cannot wash itself out and refresh. I very seriously doubt that the long term effects (like 5-20 years) of this pill on the endometrium and uterus have been fully tested. I have a strong suspicion that in a decade we’ll be seeing a whole lot more Pelvic Inflammatory Disease and bacterial infections, as well as damage to the uterine wall from old endometrial tissue.

3. Most women who go on hormonal contraceptives want to have babies someday. Again, I doubt sufficient testing on long-term use and future fertility.

If anyone knows of any studies on the long term repercussions of this pill, I would be grateful if you could point me to them.


No news is… March 24, 2006

Filed under: Uncategorized — Christina M @ 8:51 am

… well, just frustrating. But, alas, no news yet.

So I’ll take a little side trip down NFP lane just to keep from being too utterly quiet on the subject.

We’ve probably all heard the arguments against the pill and other chemical birth control. To a lesser degree, we’ve heard the arguments against the condom and other barrier methods. The progesterone only methods are not contraceptive but almost entirely abortifacient, a fact that few providers bother to mention to their patients. The combination pill, abortifacient to a lesser degree, brings with it risks of breast cancer, blood clots, strokes, heart attacks, and high blood pressure. The barrier methods reduce the intimacy of the marital act, to say the least.

But one argument I rarely hear is about how artificial birth control affects us psychologically. NFP gets referred to by its detractors as a craps shoot, because everyone knows someone who had a relative who had a neighbor who used NFP and got pregnant. What they don’t know is how many, like me, practiced NFP till one day they didn’t.

My baby isn’t the result of losing at the craps table. My baby is the result of my love for my husband being stronger than my desire to avoid pregnancy. And that is an effect you rarely get with other methods of pregnancy and birth prevention.

You see, when an NFP couple decides to “take a chance,” they know full well what the “risk” is. When a woman is fertile, and they decide to have relations, they are opening themselves to life; and this can happen any month. Unlike chemicals, and even barriers, NFP never becomes a habit, something that is automatically done. Each and every time a couple must make an individual decision about whether to open up the possibility of conception. There is no overcoming the unthinking habit of using a condom or a sponge, and there is no need to wait for chemicals to clear out of the body. Each time a couple makes their decision, they have full free choice, unhindered by the hurdles that artificial birth control put in the way.

This is how it is that someone like me, at age 39, already in early stages of perimenopause, and in not very good shape for another baby, can practice NFP and then suddenly find herself expecting, without NFP having “failed.”

So the next time you hear about a case of NFP “failure,” take a moment to appreciate the possibility that, rather than failing, NFP simply offered the couple the chance to change their minds because love overcame their inhibitions.