A Message to the Gentlemen July 8, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — Christina M @ 12:06 pm

You hear a lot these days about abortion being a “women’s issue.” (No pun intended.) You’ll hear people say that men have no right to an opinion on the subject, though those same people will welcome a man’s opinion if it is “pro choice.”  They will say, though, that it is none of your business if you presume to think about it beyond that. Until you can conceive, they yell, any other thoughts on the subject constitute a bullying attempt at male dominance over women, subjecting them to the barefoot and pregnant, in the kitchen, cowering under your fist role.

And you know you aren’t abusive.

So you begin to think that if you would never hit a woman or tell her she has no right to a paid job or respect of any kind, then your only other option is to support unlimited abortion on demand at taxpayer expense.

Honey,  I’ve got news for you. You’ve been manipulated.

Until men have no part in conception, no legal requirement to pay child support, no moral obligation to ensure their progeny’s well-being, it is your business. Giving rights to one group of people should never, ever, in a civilized society, mean trampling the rights of another group. To believe that isn’t old-fashioned, and it doesn’t make you an ogre or a wife-beater.

And for that matter, old fashoned isn’t beastly. And beastliness isn’t old-fashioned. A man who denies “his woman” basic rights or respect isn’t old-fashioned, he’s just a beast. That isn’t an element of conservatism or liberalism, modern thinking or tradition… it is oafishness of a kind that defies age and transcends generation. Some men are oafs, most are not. But to define a man as abusive based on his political bent or desire to have a say in his child’s well-being is preposterous. You do NOT have to fall for that machination.

Having a say isn’t merely a matter of men’s rights or women’s rights, anyway. It is also a matter of (listen carefully, it’s a phrase you won’t hear spoken loudly and in public often) ethics, compassion, and morality. It goes beyond party affiliation or self-definition as liberal or conservative. Morality is not reserved to the “Christian right,” no matter what some may tell you. For that matter, neither is manliness.

And manliness isn’t something to be ashamed of. Abuse isn’t manly. Disrespect isn’t manly. But protecting those who need protection is manly.

Helping a woman who is being raped is manly.  Stopping a mugger is manly. Buying (and cooking) food for your family is manly. Paying child support if you can’t raise your child yourself is manly. And defending a child — no matter how old or young — from child abuse or infanticide is definitely manly.

A man who refuses or neglects to protect those who need protecting doesn’t deserve the title of man. He isn’t modern or enlightened, he is a wimp and an ennabler. A man who supports a woman in killing his own offspring is cooperating in child abuse, and is therefore an abuser… the very sort of person he is trying to avoid being.

So don’t let people manipulate you into thinking you deserve no say. Remember, if they really believed that they would oppose you for being pro-choice as fast as they would oppose you for being pro-life. If they really believed that only those in “danger” of  bearing a child deserve a say, they would oppose lesbians and menopausal women from speaking their mind, too.

In a civilized society, one person should not have liberty to trample the rights of another.


The Central Question about Abortion July 4, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — Christina M @ 10:48 am

The thing I think we sometimes forget is that people are human beings, not just causes or issues. I know our nation has forgotten that when it comes to abortion. Abortion has become a political platform, a women’s issue, or a crusading cause. People forget to ask themselves the simple, basic, obvious question: how should we treat vulnerable human beings?

If we have any kindness, any humanity in us, we need to ask not what side of the issue validates our political leanings, but what is the kind and compassionate thing to do to a tiny person.

It’s time to stop treating people like mere cogs in our political ideologies.


A letter to the President March 25, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — Christina M @ 5:13 pm

Dear President Obama,

I don’t know that you will ever read this; yet I feel I must share my feelings, if nothing else because I know that so many others feel the same way. I hope that if enough people express these same thoughts, they will come to your attention and you may know that they are not just the ravings of an angry minority.

What I want to tell you is that I am deeply saddened by abortion. I am saddened by the loss that human beings, both unborn and mothers, face. I am also saddened that our nation has put such pressure on young people to stay young, avoid sexual responsibility, and do anything to keep a man, that millions of women who do not want abortions are being pressured into them anyway.

Most of all, I am saddened that our nation appears to be heading in the direction of such callousness that it no longer offers any protection to its most vulnerable people.

I am not entirely sad, though. I am also happy to know that polls have repeatedly shown that most people support the limiting or elimination of abortion on demand. The vast majority want it either ended, or limited to only extreme and rare cases. And that is the primary reason I am writing to you. I want to remind you that America is not a heartless nation.

I know that you may feel that we are a pro-choice nation, because you ran on a pro-choice platform and won. But I and many others want to tell you that this is a mistaken perception. Many of the people who voted for you are pro-life, but hoped that abortion would take a back seat in your policies because they had financial fears that they hoped you would help to solve. It may look like a majority support your pro-choice platform, but the reality is that most Americans do not. They are simply troubled on so many issues that this was not the issue that decided their vote.

I believe, Mr. President, that you and many others in the federal government try to keep to views that you perceive as being popular among your constituents. I honestly understand this. You want to get elected, and you want to represent the views of the majority. But what you may not realize is that pro-choice politics do not represent the views of most Americans. Most of us are moderate, and truly wish to see the abortion struggle end differently from this slaughter we see today.

I ask you, Mr. President, to reconsider your views on abortion and other issues that affect vulnerable people in the United States. I ask you to pay attention to the vast numbers of people who believe that abortion should be limited. And I ask you to realize that corporate money from those who profit from abortion is not what won you the election. You owe a far greater debt to the people of the US than you do to corporate electioneers.

Finally, I want to say that this is a tremendous opportunity for you. We live in a time of such turmoil that your decisions on matters like this can make or break our nation. You have the opportunity to show yourself as the courageous and compassionate person who had the strength to protect those who cannot protect yourself. In so doing, you would gain a level of respect that I suspect you cannot even imagine.

Thank you for considering my words, and the thoughts of so many others who feel the same way.

—Christina Martin


Catechism Highlights October 9, 2008

Filed under: Uncategorized — Christina M @ 10:36 am

Some teaching worth reflecting upon as those of us in the United States prepare to vote:

1867 The catechetical tradition also recalls that there are “sins that cry to heaven”: the blood of Abel,[139] the sin of the Sodomites,[140] the cry of the people oppressed in Egypt,[141] the cry of the foreigner, the widow, and the orphan,[142] injustice to the wage earner.[143]

1868 Sin is a personal act. Moreover, we have a responsibility for the sins committed by others when we cooperate in them:
– by participating directly and voluntarily in them;
– by ordering, advising, praising, or approving them;
– by not disclosing or not hindering them when we have an obligation to do so;
– by protecting evil-doers.


Offshore Oil September 19, 2008

Filed under: Uncategorized — Christina M @ 8:50 am

A word of explanation about my view. Yes, I want to see the development of alternative energy sources. I dearly want to see solar, electric, hybrid, and other sources explored. But those take time; and Nancy Pelosi has stated that she intends to keep prices of oil high deliberately in order to force the development of other energy sources. These measures cannot work to make any real difference, though, because they only harm the poor. The wealthy can afford gas. The middle and low income cannot, and it is they whose house payments depend on being able to afford the tank of gas to drive to work. These punitive methods espoused by Pelosi and her supporters only harm the poor, who are having the hardest time already in this difficult economy. It is rarely the poor who make policy, however. Pelosi herself can undoubtedly afford an alternative energy car. But can those who sell her groceries?

The Democratic party used to stand for compassion. I don’t think it does anymore.


Since the MSM only finds it funny when conservatives say things like this… September 7, 2008

Filed under: Uncategorized — Christina M @ 3:49 pm

we’re left to spread it around ourselves.

Please share this!


I’ll be waiting to hear apologies to the Palins. September 1, 2008

Filed under: Uncategorized — Christina M @ 9:00 am

I have a feeling I’ll be waiting a long time. Even people who did not believe the rumors were very, very quick to spread them just the same. These same people often people who would call it “mean,” “uncharitable,” or “immature” if similar rumors were spread about a Democrat. Now it’s been announced that Bristol Palin is 5 months pregnant, which of course makes it virtually impossible for her to be the mother of her 4 month old sibling.

The evidence was overwhelmingly against the rumors: legal documents, including birth certificates. Announcements of Sarah Palin’s pregnancy, the fact that the baby has Down Syndrome, which is much, much more likely in one’s 40’s than in one’s teens. The only evidence I’ve seen to the contrary is photos that show Sarah covered with bulky clothing, and the comment that no 44 year old with grown children would get pregnant. All of the speculation was spurious, yet those who knew it still spread the rumors.

Now that the rumors are known to be false, I don’t really anticipate any apologies from those mean-spirited people who spread them. I hope they prove me wrong.


Why Politics Makes Me Hurt August 24, 2008

Filed under: Uncategorized — Christina M @ 5:23 pm

Many people today put their political labels on such a pedestal that even the “compassionate” learn to harden themselves and even the logical learn not to think for themselves. It doesn’t matter whether you are conservative or liberal, Republican or Democrat, if you let your political persuasion decide your views for you, then you have lost sight of your humanness, at least just a little bit.

Let me give two examples: abortion and the poor.

First, let’s examine poverty issues. While I do not think either of the major parties has come up with adequate ideas for how to help the poor, I think the Republican party often forgets to be compassionate. Not having a solution is quite different from not giving a damn because you think they somehow deserve it. And anyone who doesn’t want the government to be part of the solution had better be doing something on a private citizen level to help, or he or she is a hypocrite of the most selfish kind.

Now what about abortion? The Democratic party makes such a dogma of it that its members frequently feel that being pro-choice is the litmus test for being a good liberal. Let’s put that litmus test to the test. Again, while I do not think either of the major parties has come up with adequate ideas for how to ensure women’s full rights, I think the Democratic party has forgotten the very concept of compassion in naming the right to kill a positive step. The Democratic nominee for president has gone so far as to put himself on record — by legal vote — as opposing the right of a born baby to remain alive. Even if you believe that a person does not gain legal personhood until birth, and that until then the baby is merely part of the mother’s body, the mother is free to walk away once that baby is outside her body; how is killing him after the fact going to affect her right not to be pregnant? How does the death of a born child help the unpregnant birth mother?

I know that few Republicans are going to read this post and say “Oh, man! Now I realize that I can’t stay Republican!” And Democrats are unlikely to say “Now I see that the Democratic party doesn’t represent my perspective after all!” I am not asking you to change your affiliation, or your self-image as a liberal or a conservative. But I am asking you to take a moment and ask yourself if the things you support are compassionate to all people involved. Nobody can hear your thoughts; you do not have to feel disloyal for asking the question. It is all right to ask; thinking people do stop and consider sometimes.

If you are to be truly human, ask yourself hard questions. Put aside the rhetoric of your people, no matter which “side” they are on, and just face the questions as though you were looking at them for the first time. Then ask yourself “What can I do to help my brothers and sisters to work toward a kinder world, even in the places where compassion and rhetoric disagree?”


Says my daughter: July 15, 2008

Filed under: Uncategorized — Christina M @ 5:39 pm

The pro-abortion people say that denying abortion makes women slaves to their uterus; but abortion makes them slaves to their vaginas.

There’s nothing I can add.


Here’s a Campaign Promise I Can Believe July 9, 2008

Filed under: Uncategorized — Christina M @ 10:57 am

Obama promises not to be moderate or act on the needs of the majority of the country.